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Had an extraordinary conversation yesterday. It was a shocking revelation and took me a while to calm myself and pen it down. I know that there are better men out there. However, posting a very short transcript of the latter part of the conversation for the benefit of women folk.
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Guy - "I do not want any dowry. I am totally against it. But I absolutely want a working wife."
Me - "Thats big of you but why the insistence on a working wife?"
Guy - "So she can pay for her own food and board. After all if you actually look at the genesis of the dowry system, it was meant to help a husband take care of his wife. But today with all this women's empowerment, that is an outdated concept."
Me - "Wow! Interesting! So tell me why not get yourself a paying guest instead of a wife?"
Guy - "Well! Don't get me wrong. I am not an unfeeling guy. I will give my wife pocket money too for all the work she does at home."
Me - "Oh so you mean you'll pay her for her services"
Guy - "God, your words are ....veryyyy...harsh"
Me - "Dude, what you are trying to say is that I have hit the nail on the head. And what you really need is a paying guest, a maid and regular visits to kalighat."
Guy - "Oh you are rude"
Me - "Oh you are lucky, you are on the other side of a telephone!"
End of conversation.
I would not consider myself disillusioned but is it perhaps time we just stopped reading fairy tales to our daughters?
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Guy - "I do not want any dowry. I am totally against it. But I absolutely want a working wife."
Me - "Thats big of you but why the insistence on a working wife?"
Guy - "So she can pay for her own food and board. After all if you actually look at the genesis of the dowry system, it was meant to help a husband take care of his wife. But today with all this women's empowerment, that is an outdated concept."
Me - "Wow! Interesting! So tell me why not get yourself a paying guest instead of a wife?"
Guy - "Well! Don't get me wrong. I am not an unfeeling guy. I will give my wife pocket money too for all the work she does at home."
Me - "Oh so you mean you'll pay her for her services"
Guy - "God, your words are ....veryyyy...harsh"
Me - "Dude, what you are trying to say is that I have hit the nail on the head. And what you really need is a paying guest, a maid and regular visits to kalighat."
Guy - "Oh you are rude"
Me - "Oh you are lucky, you are on the other side of a telephone!"
End of conversation.
I would not consider myself disillusioned but is it perhaps time we just stopped reading fairy tales to our daughters?
6 comments:
This question is so age old, I guess all the answers have become cliche. In fact, the most shameful part is that we still have to answer those. Actually, the problem with the modern man is that they feel they need to 'pity' the modern woman.
See, women liberation is a psychological change, much before social. As long as men do not realize that they need truly empowered women for their own good, as well as theirs, they will keep on feeling righteous to not 'let' their wives do the household chores.
Till then I guess, you'll keep on having many such conversations.....
Maitreyee,
You are correct, its time we stopped reading fairy tales to our daughters and read real life stories of the some of the great women who have risen much above the men folk and created a name for themselves. There are lots of such examples in history.
If a man does not respect women, he does not respect his wife, sister and above all his mother.
As far as the guy on the other side of the conversation. He deserves our pity and not hatred. His upbringing has not been healthy and this shows up in his thought process. Also, he is a weakling who does not have the confidence to support his wife who will be taking care of his home throughout their life time.
Ultimately, I would also blame the parents of women who get so desperate to get their daughters married off that they accept such unjust demands knowing fully that it is wrong.
Regards,
Khalid
Very immature, irrational and narcissistic individual.. ask him to grow up and be a "man"
Thanks guys! I am glad to have have known you all at least to continue believing in my fairytale. :)
Dear maits,
no its not time to stop telling our daughters fairytales.
i am not really shocked reading the words from the guy. i can tell you more interesting things that women have said.but i understand the invective let loose at the chap. I guess the idea of a marriage is just lost on the guy. I hope he doesnt represent the sentiments of the majority of the species :)
would advise you to not waste your precious time and talent on blogging about such lowly creatures, giving them so much undue importance.
There are worse attitudes I see coming from guys, but believe me m8s, there are some guys out there, who are really worth the wait ! Hang on to your fairy tale, don't lose hope just yet !!! :-)
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